"Do you need a suit?" - Topic of the day 8/18/24

Exactly what it says on the tin. Do you need to own a suit? If so, why (or alternatively, when)? If not, why (and what alternatives exist)?
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Smiles
Smiles4mo ago
No
Talbot
Talbot4mo ago
I'll get the lights
Sam I Am
Sam I Am4mo ago
Everyone I know seems to be getting married, but all the invites are vague/low-formality enough that I don't really feel the need to wear a suit thankfully. I need a blazer at some point though
hecklebuckle
hecklebuckle4mo ago
Maybe
adaptation
adaptation4mo ago
No but I want
myownmoses
myownmoses4mo ago
I’d say no you don’t. But the more I feel like I don’t need to wear one the more I want to wear one.
Esper
Esper4mo ago
depends
sioku
sioku4mo ago
No But I’m the living definition of fuck it
jawntanamo_bae
jawntanamo_bae4mo ago
A suit is unnecessary for most of life and I don’t think a lot of people are having the most solemn celebrations of the end of life anymore either That said, suiting can be very fun and I think if you’re into fashion having at least one suit is not a negative
Benji
Benji4mo ago
The one family wedding I've been to did require a suit or tux. So I think only if your family or friends have a formal dress code for weddings etc Or if you're appearing in court as a lawyer (or party to a case)
njoyer
njoyer4mo ago
no
Please Go Away
Please Go Away4mo ago
Yes A suit of armor
Yakkeks
Yakkeks4mo ago
Personally for me the appeal of a suit is how unnecssesary it is because that can make it a statement.
I'm Lagging
I'm Lagging4mo ago
counterpoint suits attract suit guys and they suck
zeometer
zeometer4mo ago
no given how casual society has gotten in most cases you're probably fine with separates
Elvander
Elvander4mo ago
I do actually need a suit for work but happy coincidence I also love a good well fitting suit. It's a vanishingly small percentage of the population that do need them and they hold no great virtue over any other kind of dress.
zeometer
zeometer4mo ago
i enjoy wearing suits but also i usually frequent environments where i can choose to wear a suit or not (i do think wearing a matching set is a cheeky way around this in some settings...)
freshnewspapers
freshnewspapers4mo ago
I guess for job interviews, work, or weddings?
freshnewspapers
freshnewspapers4mo ago
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freshnewspapers
freshnewspapers4mo ago
Or if you gotta save the world maybe this scenario ^
Please Go Away
Please Go Away4mo ago
Depends on the interview, workplace, or wedding. A lot of us grew up with the conventional wisdom that every man should have a suit, but in 2024 most of us can get away with business casual in the situations you would have needed a suit for 20-30 years ago. My serious answer to the main question is that if you need a suit somebody will probably tell you explicitly.
freshnewspapers
freshnewspapers4mo ago
Oh yeah definitely I think the only time I needed a suit is for a wedding
seth
seth4mo ago
suit
freshnewspapers
freshnewspapers4mo ago
I will admit I did look very classy and nice but I think you can get the same effect with other clothing as well
Talbot
Talbot4mo ago
I didn't need one until I got into the corporate world. And now the corporate world is very biz casual, so I really feel I can do whatever I want. It's quite nice tbh. I don't have to think in normal navy or grey absolutes and can really express myself however, as shown with most of my WAYT's
Spuck
Spuck4mo ago
This tbh luckily my family is poor
Digs
Digs4mo ago
Once i got into my late 20’s/early 30’s and everybody started getting married my answer changed from no you dont need one to yah its probably a veryyyyy good idea to have one
kyn
kyn4mo ago
Echoing this - I’m in tech, the last few interviews i wore any combination of a jacket/blazer or tie to i got surprised comments from the interviewer I yeeted all my suits and blazers a year or so ago and now have two weddings queued up for the first half of 2025, hopefully they’re casual :harold:
Digs
Digs4mo ago
While i dont think you need one i feel like the average person encounters enough weddings/funerals/court dates/job interviews to having at least one serviceable suit is a good idea
Smiles
Smiles4mo ago
I think the issue with this is they tend to be spread out enough the suit doesn't fit That said I would think a suit is good for weddings, funerals, and certain professions (which you'll likely already know you need a suit for)
Digs
Digs4mo ago
Yah definitely an issue, i have been lucky enough to where my body has stabilized and the same suit has fit me for like 5 years now but it has come in clutch for a few different occasions
zeometer
zeometer4mo ago
my actual super serious traditional "only wear to funerals" suit no now longer fits so i am currently hoping to not have a need for a while lol
Digs
Digs4mo ago
I’ve seen so many situations, here on mfa especially where someone is like i fucked up, i have a wedding in two days and need a suit and then they end up with some awful, poorly fitting indochino or mens wearhouse joint and you would have been better off just having a better one on deck ready to go
zeometer
zeometer4mo ago
yes that
Smiles
Smiles4mo ago
I mean I assume 99% of these people procrastinated Most wedding invites will give you plenty of lead time to get a suit
zeometer
zeometer4mo ago
to an extent i can empathize (someone suddenly dies and you need a funeral suit) but largely this feels like a scenario where you get to plan things out far enough in advance
sam
sam4mo ago
i have a suit because i wear every element of a suit individually and tbh it's been so long since i've been to an event that actually requires a specific type/fit of suit like a wedding or funeral or award ceremony or wtv so whenever i need to look formal i just do shirt+blazer+trousers regardless or not if they come in a set
Smiles
Smiles4mo ago
I want a suit I just don't think a suit is needed
Sam I Am
Sam I Am4mo ago
even funerals, I think it's nice/respectful to wear a suit, but the last couple I've been to maybe 2 guys were actually wearing a suit probably really depends on socioeconomic class and such, too
Talbot
Talbot4mo ago
But why do you want one
Yakkeks
Yakkeks4mo ago
I think a nice thing about suits is that its pretty easy to signal intentionality, especially in a more casual suit Easy as long as the suit works that is Another thing I like about suits is the ability of suits, especially tailored jackets, to create a silhuette thats different from your normal body shape think strong padded shoulders
Likepizza | pizza
If you want it, get it I like suits. However, I have only owned two suits in my life, both for weddings that had a gap of 8 years between them. and only because it was necessary
carrion
carrion4mo ago
Suits are cool. Not a necessity. This lemaire suit still has me in a chokehold. I want it so bad But my measurements mean most things OTR won't fit, and at this point in my life my measurements are in flux so getting smth tailored to fit for now doesn't make a whole lot of sense.
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zeometer
zeometer4mo ago
what i think trips people up about suits sometimes is the idea of intentonality vs formality, especially with the idea that dressing well = dressing up a suit is a strong indicator of formal dress but isn't in a vacuum. wearing it with a dress shirt and dress shoes yields a different vibe than wearing it with a graphic tee and sneakers, but both have the same level of intention imo
Yakkeks
Yakkeks4mo ago
Absolutely! The fact that you don't have to wear a suit on almost any occasion and choose to do so regardless despite it being propably not the most straightforward choice signals that you did so purposefully. though you will have to deal with the resulting main character effect (aka standing out) i guess
Weeg
Weeg4mo ago
No until you do need one i guess I love suits, and have a few and like never wear them I wore them a lot when i was selling suits I still think its a good idea for people to own one in grey or navy so theyre never caught with their pants down needing one last minute
artvandelayimporting
I have a wedding in three hours and I need a suit please help
oktober
oktober4mo ago
u can prolly go to a mall or sum like burlington a Nautica would prolly do u well
silicnchz__
silicnchz__4mo ago
this is very true! especially since we live in a time where suits are not casual wear for people
artvandelayimporting
There are no stores within 300 miles
silicnchz__
silicnchz__4mo ago
any of your friends have an extra
oktober
oktober4mo ago
bro wtf
artvandelayimporting
Help
oktober
oktober4mo ago
where the hell are u
artvandelayimporting
No dox
silicnchz__
silicnchz__4mo ago
are you the same size as any of them? valid
oktober
oktober4mo ago
valind valid
silicnchz__
silicnchz__4mo ago
are there any thrift stores in your area or a macys or something
oktober
oktober4mo ago
he said no stores
silicnchz__
silicnchz__4mo ago
not even thrift?
carrion
carrion4mo ago
someone at the wedding will have a suit. find the person closest to your size and take their clothes.
silicnchz__
silicnchz__4mo ago
any kind neighbors who are abt the same size as you
artvandelayimporting
It’s all good guys The groom is giving me his
oktober
oktober4mo ago
bro try a long sleeved church shirt ah nice
silicnchz__
silicnchz__4mo ago
ah nice anyway you don’t need a suit there is usually an alternative to it in most scenarios where a suit would be used
pumaturtle
pumaturtle4mo ago
You need one suit for interviews, funerals, and weddings yes all of yall are too online
artvandelayimporting
You need one for looking cool
Weeg
Weeg4mo ago
Youre just saying that cause you work for big suit smh
Digs
Digs4mo ago
Puma is the minister of propaganda for mr suit
zeometer
zeometer4mo ago
is that one suit or three or four, counting your own funeral
Digs
Digs4mo ago
If you think i’m gonna be in a suit at my funeral you’re dead wrong buddy
artvandelayimporting
Cremate me in the $26 suit so none of my heirs fight over it
njoyer
njoyer4mo ago
they burying digs in rick owens
zeometer
zeometer4mo ago
that's what wills are for
Digs
Digs4mo ago
I leave my $26 jcrew suit to the strongest heir in the family
artvandelayimporting
Ur right whoever has the will to kill the rest of my heirs can have it
zeometer
zeometer4mo ago
the sequel to jackpot just wrote itself
pumaturtle
pumaturtle4mo ago
One nah
silicnchz__
silicnchz__4mo ago
most. weddings are usually suit requirements, same with funerals but i find that a interviews don’t.
TheVirt
TheVirt4mo ago
no one needs a suit; it's not a bad idea to get one just in case; wear one if you wanna but learn all the rules and then decide if you wanna break them
Spuck
Spuck4mo ago
Yeah I've never had an interview that required a suit
sorrynodice
sorrynodice4mo ago
It's always interesting when I see these threads. I guess there are a lot of people in online fashion communities who don't regularly go to church/synagogue/mosque/etc services where suits are the norm. I usually wear at least suit once a week for synagogue, sometimes a sportcoat and trousers. Do you "need" one? It depends on your lifestyle. If you are part of a community (whether religious, work, or blue blood society or something) where it's the norm, then it's a good idea to get a suit. If not... don't.
Sam I Am
Sam I Am4mo ago
I haven't been to church in a while, but my church growing up was definitely not a suit-wearing place. That does make a big difference in need for a suit! I think my dad usually wore something like khakis and a blazer?
Yakkeks
Yakkeks4mo ago
I find it very interesting that ppl say you need a suit for a marriage. Bc at the marriages I was at the groom was wearing a suit and maybe 20% of the remaining ppl. I keep thinking about getting a "functional suit" i.e. a grey or navy one but I keep putting it off. I think i will go to my granddads funeral in Dark grey flannels and a black shirt and that will propably not raise any eyebrows.
Weeg
Weeg4mo ago
Yeah around here people will wear chinos and a polo shirt as their “nice” outfit Depending on the family and area
wetlandman
wetlandman4mo ago
I don’t wear a suit on the reg but find it interesting that a lot of folks here are of the opinion that you don’t need a suit at all even for an interview. I recently went to my cousins wedding and a bunch of my uncles wore Hawaiian shirts to the mass but came decked out in nice suits for the reception lol
Sam I Am
Sam I Am4mo ago
I think it really depends on what you do for work
wetlandman
wetlandman4mo ago
Yeah I mean I’m in engineering and even if I can dress more casually for the office, it would be weird for me to not do an interview in a suit I’d think more traditional office environments that would be the case for interviews at least, less so with like tech and start ups But also I was raised by a mother who went to an office with strict dress code for everyone, both men and women, so I grew up understanding that as “normal” and don’t think twice about it
Spuck
Spuck4mo ago
Yeah going to Church of any kind is not something my family have ever done,but even when I lived in Ireland and had a lot of Catholic friends, nobody was wearing suits to church. It's pretty normal to just rent a suit to get married in as well. I have a sport coat somewhere if someting looks more formal, but a full suit, nah. This might also one of those Europe vs US things
silicnchz__
silicnchz__4mo ago
for one of my job interviews my boss was wearing a muscle shirt that he made himself and a pair of raggedy ass cargo shorts. if i wore a suit to that interview i would have looked a bit overdressed compared to him
Sam I Am
Sam I Am4mo ago
yeah my most recent interview I wore linen pants and a button-down (can't remember if short or long sleeve tbh) and it was about right i work in "tech but not tech"
Talbot
Talbot4mo ago
I've worn a suit to every interview I've ever done, no matter how menial the job was But I'm an old person now, at clouds I yell.
Spuck
Spuck4mo ago
Im sure I've told the story but when I worked in the games industry, anyone turning up for an interview in a suit or a tie would get rejected
Talbot
Talbot4mo ago
Doesn't sound like a bias at all When I'm on a board I intentionally catch and force myself not to judge based on clothing and really attempt to measure the person based on interaction and previous experience. Clothing doesn't matter
Spuck
Spuck4mo ago
Hey I wasn't doing the hiring It was explained to me as not actually doing any research about the company at all.
Esper
Esper4mo ago
sounds toxic as hell ngl
Sam I Am
Sam I Am4mo ago
i really hate hiring practices that punish people for advice they probably got from well-meaning parents or mentors
Talbot
Talbot4mo ago
Sorry wasn't attacking you!
Benji
Benji4mo ago
Yupp and annoying! Obviously don't penalize people for wearing a suit or not wearing a suit to an interview
Spuck
Spuck4mo ago
This was in like, mid-2000s, asnd honestly one of the least toxic things about those workplaces lol
silicnchz__
silicnchz__4mo ago
personally i think if you are more confident and more comfortable during an interview in another piece of formal/semiformal clothing than you would be in a suit then do it
Talbot
Talbot4mo ago
Oh I meant when I'm on the hiring side interviewing applicants
zeometer
zeometer4mo ago
seconding that i have had some great hires not know how to dress; fortunately that's not a job criterion
JimMD
JimMD3mo ago
I need a suit, more than one, mainly for occasional business meetings, a few times a year. Currently I have four that I’ll wear. 2 bespoke, 2 Canali’s. I have some older suits I’ll probably never wear again. But my usual wardrobe is a lot more casual!
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