Gatekeeping - Topic of the day 10/21/24

This is a safe space to ask: do you gatekeep about fashion (stores, sellers, designers, items, wearing particular items, etc.)? Why or why not? What benefits or drawbacks exist in limiting access/knowledge vs being fully open without constraints? Are different degrees of this acceptable or appropriate based on the area or subgroup? ps when I said "this is a safe space" I meant everything behind the gate, mods will still ban you if you do anything dumb.
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calla
calla2mo ago
i think the most acceptable form of gatekeeping is when my parents ask how much i paid for a piece of clothing and i lie to them the mom/dad 50% price cut
Sal
Sal2mo ago
Knowledge and inclusion is a gift I give freely of my heart which is pure and full unless you're weird then nah
lyon
lyon2mo ago
if you aren’t a decent human being why would i share the secrets of drip
circleframes
circleframes2mo ago
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Weeg
Weeg2mo ago
Sometimes i look at listings on ebay just to be sure im not giving out knowledge thats too good Like if i have a cool vintage pant i got a deal on im gonna check my size on ebay before passing the recommendation just to make sure lol
Smiles
Smiles2mo ago
I gatekeep unintentionally
Holfram
Holfram2mo ago
Yeah but that’s not gatekeeping, that’s just finders keepers lol
Holfram
Holfram2mo ago
It’s an interesting question what’s actually considered gatekeeping. Like I’m not going to recommend someone who’s just trying to get into fashion and trying to find their way an eclectic mix of e.g. Rick, Kapital and Vivienne Westwood. Thinking: if the person is interested enough they’ll keep asking anyways and will receive whatever they want and if they aren’t they’re not going to need to know?
eggtart!
eggtart!2mo ago
80% tattoo cut LMAOO I would hate telling my friends where I got my stuff just bc of the price range makes it moot
calla
calla2mo ago
lmao yeah,,,
Legs
Legs2mo ago
Growing up Jewish, I always just tell family what a great deal I got on something rather than saying how much it cost.
Piejamas
Piejamas2mo ago
I excel in putting together fits that make people think "Hmm, maybe we do need more gatekeeping"
eggtart!
eggtart!2mo ago
Adjacent but I think tattoos is where I would eagerly share my artists or send them more since it's already a given that tattoos are expensive
jibba
jibba2mo ago
I can see why a community might want to gatekeep signifiers of that community
eggtart!
eggtart!2mo ago
Clothing has such a wide range of expense Hmm do you guys ever feel like you hold back advice bc you don't know how the person would take it
carrion
carrion2mo ago
I gatekeep brands all the time cuz I think it's funny to lie to strangers
jibba
jibba2mo ago
I gatekeep my advice because it’s probably bad
eggtart!
eggtart!2mo ago
I would gatekeep this one friend just bc he keeps telling me to fking buy Uniqlo bc it's cheaper while low-key complimenting my fit anyways
awburkey
awburkey2mo ago
don't dress cool enough to gatekeep. They're just a pair of jeans
algoresky
algoresky2mo ago
look at beans being all secretive about what jeans he wears
wetlandman
wetlandman2mo ago
Im thinking about it and im not sure what knowledge I even posses that I could gate keep?
Garet
Garet2mo ago
I gatekeep mostly out of embarrassment. Especially brands like Visvim which can look fairly pedestrian to people who aren’t into fashion. I’m embarrassed if people look it up and see how much I spend on clothing
sharloy
sharloy2mo ago
If I lie about where I got something it’s not bc I’m gatekeeping it’s bc I don’t need people to know how much I spent
wetlandman
wetlandman2mo ago
I wish people had gatekept thrifting 😢
sharloy
sharloy2mo ago
“Nice shoes, what are they? I want to buy them” “These are tylorean boots. GH bass and Klemens make a pair” Bc otherwise they see the $500 Paraboot price tag lmao
brandon
brandon2mo ago
it never caught on in the midwest (not as drastic compared to what i experienced in ny)
wetlandman
wetlandman2mo ago
Guess I know what I’m doing when I go to Indiana for a wedding soon
brandon
brandon2mo ago
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Garet
Garet2mo ago
This is exactly it for me as well lol
myownmoses
myownmoses2mo ago
It’s not what it was 15 years ago, but Midwest thrifting still usually involves huge stores of cheap and poorly organized stuff to sift through…which I enjoy.
wetlandman
wetlandman2mo ago
Like a treasure hunt !
sam
sam2mo ago
lol do this too
Soko
Soko2mo ago
Gatekeeping is like a minimum height requirement for a ride: you gotta meet some principles in order to engage with the topic.
warpweftwatergate
If someone asks where I got my pants/shirt I just tell them I got em from their mom
Spuck
Spuck2mo ago
Its still so good and cheap here, thankfully
Seán
Seán2mo ago
I haven't been thinking seriously about fashion for that long so it's not like I even talk to people that much about it to begin with but I don't think I'd be bothered with gate keeping. (I assume you mean gatekeep as in "This information/brand is just for me and I get to decide who should know about it"?) If you want it get it I don't care. More power to you.
jawntanamo_bae
on the flip side I will always tell my friends what something is and then the non-fashion ones always come back with “idk why I asked”
Yakkeks
Yakkeks5w ago
I always try to bully my irl friends to buy stuff that I find cool but is not in my size anti gatekeeping basically
Harpua
Harpua4w ago
I like when there’s a drop and the internet goes silent in fear that what they want could sell out before they get a chance at it.
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