Gatekeeping - Topic of the day 10/21/24

This is a safe space to ask: do you gatekeep about fashion (stores, sellers, designers, items, wearing particular items, etc.)? Why or why not? What benefits or drawbacks exist in limiting access/knowledge vs being fully open without constraints? Are different degrees of this acceptable or appropriate based on the area or subgroup? ps when I said "this is a safe space" I meant everything behind the gate, mods will still ban you if you do anything dumb.
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calla
calla6mo ago
i think the most acceptable form of gatekeeping is when my parents ask how much i paid for a piece of clothing and i lie to them the mom/dad 50% price cut
Sal
Sal6mo ago
Knowledge and inclusion is a gift I give freely of my heart which is pure and full unless you're weird then nah
lyon
lyon6mo ago
if you aren’t a decent human being why would i share the secrets of drip
circleframes
circleframes6mo ago
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Weeg
Weeg6mo ago
Sometimes i look at listings on ebay just to be sure im not giving out knowledge thats too good Like if i have a cool vintage pant i got a deal on im gonna check my size on ebay before passing the recommendation just to make sure lol
Smiles
Smiles6mo ago
I gatekeep unintentionally
Holfram
Holfram6mo ago
Yeah but that’s not gatekeeping, that’s just finders keepers lol
Holfram
Holfram6mo ago
It’s an interesting question what’s actually considered gatekeeping. Like I’m not going to recommend someone who’s just trying to get into fashion and trying to find their way an eclectic mix of e.g. Rick, Kapital and Vivienne Westwood. Thinking: if the person is interested enough they’ll keep asking anyways and will receive whatever they want and if they aren’t they’re not going to need to know?
eggtart!
eggtart!6mo ago
80% tattoo cut LMAOO I would hate telling my friends where I got my stuff just bc of the price range makes it moot
calla
calla6mo ago
lmao yeah,,,
Legs
Legs6mo ago
Growing up Jewish, I always just tell family what a great deal I got on something rather than saying how much it cost.
Piejamas
Piejamas6mo ago
I excel in putting together fits that make people think "Hmm, maybe we do need more gatekeeping"
eggtart!
eggtart!6mo ago
Adjacent but I think tattoos is where I would eagerly share my artists or send them more since it's already a given that tattoos are expensive
jibba
jibba6mo ago
I can see why a community might want to gatekeep signifiers of that community
eggtart!
eggtart!6mo ago
Clothing has such a wide range of expense Hmm do you guys ever feel like you hold back advice bc you don't know how the person would take it
carrion
carrion6mo ago
I gatekeep brands all the time cuz I think it's funny to lie to strangers
jibba
jibba6mo ago
I gatekeep my advice because it’s probably bad
eggtart!
eggtart!6mo ago
I would gatekeep this one friend just bc he keeps telling me to fking buy Uniqlo bc it's cheaper while low-key complimenting my fit anyways
awburkey
awburkey6mo ago
don't dress cool enough to gatekeep. They're just a pair of jeans
algoresky
algoresky6mo ago
look at beans being all secretive about what jeans he wears
wetlandman
wetlandman6mo ago
Im thinking about it and im not sure what knowledge I even posses that I could gate keep?
Garet
Garet6mo ago
I gatekeep mostly out of embarrassment. Especially brands like Visvim which can look fairly pedestrian to people who aren’t into fashion. I’m embarrassed if people look it up and see how much I spend on clothing
sharloy
sharloy6mo ago
If I lie about where I got something it’s not bc I’m gatekeeping it’s bc I don’t need people to know how much I spent
wetlandman
wetlandman6mo ago
I wish people had gatekept thrifting 😢
sharloy
sharloy6mo ago
“Nice shoes, what are they? I want to buy them” “These are tylorean boots. GH bass and Klemens make a pair” Bc otherwise they see the $500 Paraboot price tag lmao
brandon
brandon6mo ago
it never caught on in the midwest (not as drastic compared to what i experienced in ny)
wetlandman
wetlandman6mo ago
Guess I know what I’m doing when I go to Indiana for a wedding soon
brandon
brandon6mo ago
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Garet
Garet6mo ago
This is exactly it for me as well lol
myownmoses
myownmoses6mo ago
It’s not what it was 15 years ago, but Midwest thrifting still usually involves huge stores of cheap and poorly organized stuff to sift through…which I enjoy.
wetlandman
wetlandman6mo ago
Like a treasure hunt !
sam
sam6mo ago
lol do this too
Soko
Soko6mo ago
Gatekeeping is like a minimum height requirement for a ride: you gotta meet some principles in order to engage with the topic.
warpweftwatergate
If someone asks where I got my pants/shirt I just tell them I got em from their mom
Spuck
Spuck6mo ago
Its still so good and cheap here, thankfully
Seán
Seán6mo ago
I haven't been thinking seriously about fashion for that long so it's not like I even talk to people that much about it to begin with but I don't think I'd be bothered with gate keeping. (I assume you mean gatekeep as in "This information/brand is just for me and I get to decide who should know about it"?) If you want it get it I don't care. More power to you.
pacific_north_dressed
on the flip side I will always tell my friends what something is and then the non-fashion ones always come back with “idk why I asked”
Yakkeks
Yakkeks6mo ago
I always try to bully my irl friends to buy stuff that I find cool but is not in my size anti gatekeeping basically
JoshMVP
JoshMVP6mo ago
I like when there’s a drop and the internet goes silent in fear that what they want could sell out before they get a chance at it.

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