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Mmfad
•Created by Clark'sDesertBot on 1/17/2025 in #topic-of-the-day
Trying too hard - Topic of the day 1/17/25
Not gonna lie, I think that’s precisely the opposite of what they are for
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Mmfad
•Created by Ninjury on 1/19/2025 in #questions-and-advice
Looking for summer drapey suit
Nice, ok. Go hard or go home then!
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Mmfad
•Created by Ninjury on 1/19/2025 in #questions-and-advice
Looking for summer drapey suit
I cant quite tell the difference between the wide boys and the classic wide.
I’m also slightly worried that all that extra fabric (db + wide) will look odd on my short frame. I’m hoping that my relative muscularity kinda makes up for height to fill it out
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Mmfad
•Created by Ninjury on 1/19/2025 in #questions-and-advice
Looking for summer drapey suit
It looks nice! They have so many fabrics, easy to get decision paralysis
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Mmfad
•Created by Clark'sDesertBot on 1/17/2025 in #topic-of-the-day
Trying too hard - Topic of the day 1/17/25
Yeah and I also think there are maybe different dynamics at work vs non work
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Mmfad
•Created by Clark'sDesertBot on 1/17/2025 in #topic-of-the-day
Trying too hard - Topic of the day 1/17/25
That’s a good point, Steve. I think there’s also something about status that’s worth considering. I imagine that someone who holds a lot of status in a given group is likely to “get away” with great disparity from the norm. But someone who is lower status in that same group wearing the same thing may not be given as much leniency.
To the extent that that’s true, I think the perception that someone is trying hard says as much or more about the perceiver as the perceived.
Also, I wonder how physical attractiveness plays a similar role here. People that are conventionally considered attractive probably also have more leeway on what is (even subconsciously) acceptable
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Mmfad
•Created by Clark'sDesertBot on 1/17/2025 in #topic-of-the-day
Trying too hard - Topic of the day 1/17/25
Sorry if this is a very armchair philosophy analysis, that’s just how my brain works
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Mmfad
•Created by Clark'sDesertBot on 1/17/2025 in #topic-of-the-day
Trying too hard - Topic of the day 1/17/25
Some of this seems to be getting into the subjectivity / objectivity of what looks good. I think people are using the term “confidence” in two ways.
If you think what looks good is more subjective, then confidence is being used more a pointer for swag or self-confidence and that seems like a necessary ingredient for authenticity.
But if you think fashion/art/beauty has objective standards then it seems like confidence is used more in terms of epistemology: I.e are you right, and how do you know?
I think there’s probably a healthy balance between the two
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