Peer Pressure and Clothes - Topic of the day 10/30/24
Given how social media and society operate, it's hard not to encounter someone giving their opinions to or around you. How do you respond to others' opinions about your clothes? To what extent do you/have you made a choice about clothes based on wanting to be included or validated by a group, and how has it worked out? How do you balance your own desires with this external pressure? Respectfully share your thoughts here, like all the cool kids do.
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I posted a fitpic 1 year ago and my friend whose taste i respect said my shoes sucked so i didn't wear them for like a full year
basically what meaty said
then i realized they're an idiot and anybody who has an opinion on your clothes that is not your own doesn't matter and i should wear what i like
this should be applied to yourself, the person reading this, imo
Honestly peer pressure drives me to dress better
But also I care a lot about non lame people think so i can improve
This is about peers, aka people I respect
but like dude on the street
I do not care
True
it took a lot of time and building of self-worth and self concept to say "buy me new clothes and i'll do better" to the garden variety hater
Just like peer review means people in your field of study, peer pressure only is meaningful if you respect someone’s sense of fashion
things like constructive criticism or feedback from people i do care about is helpful; it's a matter of parsing who that is to you
I am reminded of the author John Green's anecdote where as a young writer at a live theater event, a performer who was paid to go around and give people compliments said his Adidas looked good. He now almost exclusively wears Adidas shoes most days.
that's so sad lmfao
I would rather 2 people whose style I respect but have never met in person like my fit than 2000 people on the street do, and I am similarly easily influenced by that former group
otoh some of those online fashion ppl have gone on to be valued friends and almost all of them have guided me in the right direction in terms of figuring out what works and doesnt
Idk tho, being complimented on your outfit or style in person randomly is pretty nice
I should solicit more feedback from peers, honestly.
i would differentiate accepting opinions from seeking validation
That's important
The only persons opinion I really listen to day to day is my wifes, and thats mostly us asking each other. She's slowly coming round to the cowboy boots.
As long as my grandma thinks I'm handsome
I appreciate a little friendly pressure
The ultimate co-sign
That's the most important opinion and validation, duh
well, MFAD obvs
Oh yes, of course. How could I forget
Highlights
No lol
Last time I met my Landlord he complimented my outfit.
Safe to say I do not own any of these clothes anymore
(thats a lie, i kept the shirt, but that cardigan,the chinos and the loafer are gone)
It was this one
(also them getting rotated out had not actually anything to do with the compliment)
Point stills stands
sometimes you get a compliment from the worst person and it makes you hate the outfit
feedback from ppl i respect is good
if i don't respect u i could not possibly care less
if you have no swag idc what you say about my fits !
simple as !
wish my friends were more into clothes so i had more peer pressure to dress tbh
i think you dress cool so i would like to know how this works for you
i feel like i've gone through that to some extent, but ultimately felt i was conforming to what these other ppl's definitions of cool or "what looks good" is
Well peer pressure is dressing to trends right? I think I’m always somewhat trendy to a fault
My psi or proportions are usually what’s meta in the fashion industry rn or at least what celebrities are going for
Vs going vintage or sticking with a specific style
ahh, i read it more as the peer pressure of like, your friends/community rather than the current trends in fashion
or uhh, the people you respect etc
Ig im not really influenced by a lot of people irl but sometimes people get things here and im like that looks good so i get it
i (try) to actively post on some socials and here, so i leave myself fairly open to a lot of people's comments, good and bad.
in honesty, i think i struggle to put myself out there because i'm hugely introverted, and i worried about what the reaction to what i posted would be. i think (lower case) fashion is a big signifier of personality to me and so the idea that could be rejected/disliked is confronting.
what i've learned really is that fashion utilised in earnest seems rarely admonished. what people want to see is personality and how someone tackles the idea of clothing thoughtfully.