Overdressing - Topic of the day 7/18/24
They say if you're the smartest person in the room you should find a different room. But what if you're the most fitted person in the room? How do you find balance between looking cool and not looking out of place? If you're okay with looking out of place, how did you arrive at this point? I will kill you if you just link the Ethan Wong 'What is an Occasion?' article.
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nobody else Putting That Shit On like me
internally lord over everyone as the hottest bitch in the room
it is amongst the reasons why i also wear makeup in a very natural not obvious way to complete the overdressed look
Is it okay to bring a briefcase to high school
i think it depends HOW you overdress
theme is pink but majority of people plan to wear a dried rose pink? i wear barbie pink it looks good on me and its very me in terms of style
i used high school as a catwalk, i am a different person now but i don't regret it in the slightest
yes i did
it really depends the type of student you are
personally it’s a no from me
like if you were me i didnt bring all of my textbooks just my notebooks so a briefcase could totally fit that
but if yer studious yea i dont think it can hold yer textbooks
and i m not into textbook ribbon things like why tf do i have a bag if it cant hold this for me
i think with overdressing if you’re still sticking to the standard of wherever you are then it’s okay, e.g going to school but still having the normal aspects e.g a backpack
like nobody is going to school in full length ball gowns type overdressing
people still stick to casual esque
remember how teachers hated tote bags, deadass like if it fits all of my books whats the problem lol
i took a tote bag to school aswell
like my whole 5 years
as well as additional bag or only bag?
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in the UK we have uniforms though so to me that counted as sticking out slightly
exactly
only bag
noice
you didnt do discreet adjustments?
i wore different shoes ( converse when we was supposed to wear formal black shoes) necklaces and bracelets and sometimes pins on my blazer
Overdressing day to day means being into a different style than the predominant one where you live. Like, when I lived in Chicago 2014 - 2021 it meant you were a bit outside of the norm if you weren’t wearing streetwear on some level, especially in the fashion oriented circles there.
In NYC now it’s hard to literally ever feel overdressed because every style is represented here.
this September i have college which is the first school where we are allowed to wear our own clothing every day which im insanely nervous for
aaah accessoriser i was a uniform tailoring person, people went against the rules making their pants skinnier while i made mine baggier and high waisted
yay but also shit so have to think of outfits every single day
Overdressing for events is a different thing imo. Like, when I go to a work conference and wear a suit most of the other folks are in oxfords or polos and lulu pants and frankly I say wear what you think represents you best. I feel comfortable in a blazer and or a tie in professional environments
i also did something similar, our blazers had shoulder pads inside which made my figure extra boxier, so i managed to remove them
for pants i just bought a size up which made them baggier
lol was the opposite i had bigger sleeves so my shoulders would look wider
yeahh im more feminine so i prefer a smaller looo
look*
compared to a wide shoulder kinda thing
so complete blending with subtle choices to better suit yourself noice
Overdressing is chill if you're normal about it
But if you pull up to the function with an "i'm wearing a suit i'm Important" attitude when it's not warranted thats weird
Doesn't exist
Imo there should be a distinction between intrinsic overdressing, and social/external overdressing.
Internal one comes from not understanding your style/fit, i.e. wearing too much accessories, or miswearing these, like big buckle cowboy belt with unlined loafers.
Social one is misreading the context aka showing up in a white tie to office.
But I would not call overdressing a cohesive fit where I just manage to look better than the rest of people.
Like, yeah, looking nice makes you look nicer.
I think there can be something charming about being slightly overdressed
accepting that a) i've come to enjoy the things i wear and b) i will to some extent be judged regardless of what i wear because black i have accepted that i overdress and that's okay!
i think intent and awareness are key - only choosing to Put Shit On in a way to dunk on people is different from dressing to fit your view of how to dress in a particular context
and as @lavandism said i can't help it if that means i am dressed better than other people; i didn't choose for them to be drip deficient
anytime i think I'm overdressing I'm probably actually underdressing and just wildly overthinking it
Genuinely I have a big problem with this. My friends irl do not dress particularly well or wear much that is particularly interesting. So even in what is pretty basic here, I am peacocking every time I go out
Also lack of inspiration irl in that sense also kind of sucks but thats a different conversation
peacocking is fake
just flex on everyone its that simple yk
my friends expect me to be dressed the way i dress anyway
I think my thoughts on over dressing have changed. There definitely is a "know and dress appropriately for the occasion." That's the golden standard. But as of late, I add the caveat of "if the fits tight it's aight." If one chooses to consciously over dress then it better be on point whether it's Japanese city boy or Ricky Ricky Slicky Owens. My monkey brain: if fit is dope: dope fit overrides over dressing. Otherwise, overdressed. I just like seeing dope fits in the wild.
no
I mean you CAN but that is gonna be high difficulty
only if you sell drugs
if you bring a briefcase to high school and you’re not the drug kid I’m bullying you
this is what everyone thinks of someone if they are Actually overdressed. briefcase kid encapsulates it all
I hate that these conversations always inevitably return to swag, but it’s real
If you got swag you can wear a suit anywhere and you’re not “overdressed,” in a dork way, you just look nice.
If you don’t got swag you look like a dork
i do watersports so i lowkey feel overdressed when i change bc people usually just change to something super straightforward a la athleisure
but i feel good abt myself so it doesn't m,atter
@Ivanhoe69 today’s fit sums up this message
Yeah absolutely stellar example
@The Teenage Gentleman lol is someone who wears suits all the time but they look so casual on him because he’s clearly comfortable in tailoring
LOOOL i love being called out in the topic hahhaaha
was that because people regularly share that article? lol
Yeah hahahaha it’s tongue in cheek
thisis good
I didn’t want smiles to just post the link to the article and be like /thread
lmaaaao
i think everyone here has it right. swag is something i didn't write about specifically but it makes sense. if you look cool in what you're wearing, then it doesnt' really matter
there has to be some gravitas
i will also say this matters more when social currency or whatever is involved. Usually this means some kind of external event: work dinner/party/client event, someoneELSES bday dinner, a wedding, etc
it almost doesn't matter if you're doing daily stuff because it can be played off as "what you happened to be wearing that day"
i think i say in my article, nothing ever happens to me that didn't come from my own agency, so i take full advantage lol so my perspective is more biased than someone who has to regularly go into the office/client facing or has friends who keep getting married or hosting events lol
also if you're actively single or wanting to FIT in somewhere, that plays into it
and my "hot take" is people concerned with overdressing are:
- early in their style journey where their swag fits stand out from what they wore before, at least to the point where people notice
- are socially concerned with their environment
both of these things dissapear overtime. For me, yeah it was more obvious when i was 19 that i was "overdressed" but now, at my regualr cafes/boba shops/bars, its just too normal to see me in a suit
I have a mild take: the level of formality stands out more if you brick the fit
Hard agree
Yup that guy who turns up to dinner in a poorly fitting black suit when everyone else is in t-shirts and hoodies
i'm in college and there are a good amount of people who use tote bags as their main/only bag for class
a final thought - for me "overdressing" in public was also a way to get more comfortable with dressing in the way and intention that i now enjoy, sort of like exposure therapy
mind you going to work in a fit like this may raise a few eyebrows depending on environment but - for me anyway- it was a way to be okay with putting myself out there to the world in this way AND i felt i was in environment where it was okay to do so
tote bags are wild but i’ll be honest as i’ve learned more about luggage and bags i’ve learned to appreciate them
I saw that
tbh same
tote bags are so trendy to me
but lmao back in hs i was seeing kankens everywhere and i thought the size was impossible
college would honestly at least make sense for me for not carrying jackshit
no but same