What should I start with?
This is my first step to enter the world of men's fashion. I know that it is a world that can be overwhelming, although on the other hand I have some preferences with which I could define my style.
The colors I like to use are:
- Blues.
- Whites.
- Blacks.
Some items I would like to try are:
- Shirts.
- Flannels.
- Jogging pants.
- Dress pants.
I like them better if they don't have any design and DON'T make me sweat a lot.
As for footwear, I would like to try:
- Chelsea boots.
- Sneakers
- Crocs.
What I like about here is that they DO NOT have laces and they fit perfectly.
As for accessories, I like:
- Watches.
- Sunglasses.
- Accordion-shaped wallets for several cards.
- Bracelets.
- Panama hats.
- Maximum one ring.
So, I have 3 questions left over here.
1. I am going to the gym, would it be much more attractive if I combined the gym with fashion? That is, having an aesthetic physique but also a good style in terms of fashion.
2. Have any of you felt changes in how others saw you after improving your style?
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you seem to have it pretty figured out in terms of what you want. are you asking for brand recommendations?
answering your questions:
1. whatever you find the most attractive for yourself is what's most attractive. if you're trying to find a partner, it's 99% personality and how you are confident in your skin and clothing more than your actual physique and what you're wearing
2. they see me as the exact same person except i sometimes get compliments about clothes and that's really it
I wanted to know if I could have good combinations, in addition to also looking for recommendations of brands with an excellent quality-price ratio.
I thought looks mattered in attracting girls.
well yeah everything you listed is pretty straightforward and would go together. do you have any pictures as far as the general look you want to go for? i think you generally know not to wear Crocs with your slacks and a button up but other than that
Build yourself an inspiration album using #inspiration #waywt-highlights , Instagram, tiktok, Pinterest, etc.
Once you have a few pics you can come back here and ask for brand recommendations. You've listed out some pieces you'd like to get, but shirts, pants, shoes, and accessories come in dozens of different styles, cuts, and price points, and text-only is an incredibly inefficient way to talk about fashion.
1. Go to the gym because you want to improve your health, your confidence, or because it's fun.
2. Style isn't something that works on a sliding scale - there aren't objective levels to it. Your style has to be yours. Some people here have amazing personal styles and they wear things I would never wear because I don't fw it. Doesn't mean they don't look good or I look bad.
I didn't know that last one, however, I don't have a general appearance. It would just be a matter of experimenting.
1. But there are many men who improve their physique to attract the opposite sex, if we deny it it would be lying to ourselves.
Perhaps, but that’s not why we give advice
Mfad users are already the peak of sexiness :gigachad:
No room for improvement
gonna answer 2 and say yes, but not for the reason you would assume. i think people did perceive me differently because i found a style (really a way of dressing but that's nitpicking) that was true to who i was and became more confident in it and in general as a result. i wasn't changing for anyone because i wanted to better myself for my own sake, but other people benefitted from that as well
also imo if you're going to work out wear functional clothing and focus on the actual workout
Honestly, I don't always do it for women, but also to try new things.
I always wear clothes that allow me to breathe and be as comfortable as possible. I don't wear accessories or anything to focus on the exercise.
i feel like you've answered your own question 1
Brother I am a gym rat. I'm saying, if you're going to the gym to get laid you're not gonna stick with it. It's terrible motivation and it takes years of consistent work to see changes. My point is that you need to do it for yourself.
Being healthy, having hobbies, and having confidence are attractive to a lot of people, and the gym can help you get to that point, but it is not a replacement for having a good personality.
I'm not going to get laid at the gym, I have a commitment to personal development.
i mean what do you value in a partner? how much is it looks and how much is it anything else?
Something funny that happens to me is that when I talk to girls who I do NOT find attractive, I feel more flexible and have more freedom to be myself. It happened to me once on transport and to several girls I talk to on Microsoft Teams.
However, when it comes to girls that I find very attractive, the difficulty increases exponentially.
I would say that I have some things clear, but NOT all because I have to expand my range of possibilities.
just to be clear what exactly is the issue with how you dress currently? and what is your aim for learning more about fashion?
because some of this is maybe not going to be solved by a change in clothes imo
I’m not really totally up to snuff on this whole conversation but if I could talk to my younger self I would suggest that those people I feel free and like myself with are the people I should be interested in. Just saying. No further advice
super shadow > super sonic
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I seek to feel better about myself, I feel that my clothes DO NOT convey what I really like or that the colors DO NOT agree with me, I have realized that on many occasions the importance of appearance does NOT only lie in women but in different areas. of my life. Also, I look for my own way, for years my parents are the ones who have bought the clothes and I would like to try.
Let's be honest, we are in a world where appearance has a lot of value.
LOL
Also because I'm starting to try things on my own.
Ok I think you are jumbling a lot of things together. Let’s stick to clothes for now
You listed a lot of things you think you like, do you have the opportunity to try anything on in stores?
Do you mean buy the products?
1. hey I'm gonna flag this as a line of thinking you should interrogate from the perspective of "why am I thinking of women (of which there are roughly 4 billion) exclusively in terms of whether or not I am attracted to them"
2. your clothes are (can be? should be?) a way to express yourself, and shouldn't be the vector through which you primarily derive an improved self-image (i.e. buying things is not the path to self-actualization and "feeling better about yourself").
There are many instances in which updating your wardrobe to better reflect who you feel you are and what you want to project CAN make you feel better, but take it from me that a number of people who go follow this line of thinking still struggle. There will be days when your wardrobe isn't hitting right, and if you're counting on that to be the thing that makes you Feel Good you're in for a bad time. 3. scrolling up, you should in general not be doing things "for women" as opposed to for yourself, not all women value the same things because women are people carrion and casul's advice is dead on and I would enthusiastically recommend you to consider it. your inspo is fairly consistent. there is no rule saying you shouldn't wear more than one ring, but if you only want to wear one ring, then great - that helps narrow your scope. That said, slim/skinny fitted pants, no-show socks, and monkstraps are not currently on trend and neither are chelseas. this ultimately does not matter as there are plenty of people still out here making these look good every day - scroll through #waywt and you'll find some inspo, a couple of my favorite online clothes wearers make slim/skinny fits look good regularly. Whether or not this matters to you is for you to decide.
There are many instances in which updating your wardrobe to better reflect who you feel you are and what you want to project CAN make you feel better, but take it from me that a number of people who go follow this line of thinking still struggle. There will be days when your wardrobe isn't hitting right, and if you're counting on that to be the thing that makes you Feel Good you're in for a bad time. 3. scrolling up, you should in general not be doing things "for women" as opposed to for yourself, not all women value the same things because women are people carrion and casul's advice is dead on and I would enthusiastically recommend you to consider it. your inspo is fairly consistent. there is no rule saying you shouldn't wear more than one ring, but if you only want to wear one ring, then great - that helps narrow your scope. That said, slim/skinny fitted pants, no-show socks, and monkstraps are not currently on trend and neither are chelseas. this ultimately does not matter as there are plenty of people still out here making these look good every day - scroll through #waywt and you'll find some inspo, a couple of my favorite online clothes wearers make slim/skinny fits look good regularly. Whether or not this matters to you is for you to decide.
No I mean simply try them on your body and see how they feel and look
There are several clothing stores where I am, but I hadn't thought about it.
I’d recommend (first reading kyns advice carefully) but don’t rush into buying a bunch of stuff quickly
Let's see, correct me if I'm wrong.
"Alright, I'm acknowledging that the main issue I have is solely basing myself on appearance when there are many more factors beyond it. I'm just a young person."
"Clothing is a powerful form of expression and should be a way for me to express myself. It shouldn't be the primary means to improve my image; I should try other things. And there are many things I should do for myself. I shouldn't solely focus on clothing to feel good."
"I should address the issue of self-esteem more deeply.
Wow
yeah
hell yeah
yeah pretty much
I mean this in all earnestness you took that as well as humanly possible and I am optimistic for you.
Hey man there’s a lot of really horrible advice on the internet on how to be a young man and how to relate to women and a lot of it I think can be really isolating and alienating so thanks for being receptive
The world would be a better place if guys were doing the work and introspection that you’re doing
Hope we get to witness your style journey
PUT THAT SHIT ON BROTHER 🗣️
I have to address the problem of feeling alone, because that would be the problem and the reason why this "need" to want girls arises.
It's a marathon, not a sprint. A lot of people here are still developing their style (and working on themselves in other ways) well into their 20s, 30s and beyond.
For a moment I thought I had screwed up.
Brother we all screw up
Thanks bros.
You're chads.
Man that is so real. We get told a lot of the time that girls owe us, or that it’s not okay to have male friends or female friends and that can make u feel so angry and alone. That takes real time and strength to unlearn
We hope you stick around and learn a bit about dressing for yourself 🙂
you seem like a good dude
I’ll maintain that if you would like to improve your style you should try stuff on in store and ask opinions but don’t rush to buy stuff. If you are genuinely interested you will find your way
(Or at least … a way… paved with many bricks… speaking from experience…)
oh no yeah i think bricks are a necessary part of the journey
there's a lot of deconstructing that comes with it. compulsive heterosexuality could also be keeping you from self-discovery, too. take your time, unpack the things that society's slapped on you, and figure out how much of your preference is what you've been told it "has" to be, and what's actually yours.
if you've got the strength to receive advice, you've got the strength to really see things in a new light - your own